A Summer’s Sojourn – permission to have space

October 20, 2010 at 12:26 am 2 comments

I took the summer off from my healing practice to spend time with my children and with myself.   We spent the summer away from our primary home,  friends and routines.  I love summer.  I love the idea of stepping away from everything and being at choice to create whatever we want for the moment, day or week. 

We created a new community away from our primary community.  In this community I saw my children have the opportunity to establish and be however they wanted to be.  I found myself having flexibility in choosing who I talked with and how much time I spent talking with others.  Some days I found I really craved conversation and interaction and other days, in the quiet of the day I found I was very content to keep conversation to a minimal and sit with my thoughts.  I loved the way our days unfolded.  We had very little structure and most of the time, we just let opportunities come to us during the day.  I loved these summer days with the lack of structure and the permission I gave myself to be free of schedules, commitments and obligations. 

I am now back into the routine of the fall and I am finding I still crave the quiet, the lack of schedule and the ability to let the day unfold.   However, an interesting phenomena has happened.  In the summer I gave myself permission to follow my natural rhythm.  In the fall, I am finding I am labeling my natural rhythm  as being  lazy, or wasting time. 

I have just begun to notice how I give myself permission in the summer to have all this space and time to let the day unfold.  In the fall, I am so scheduled with things to get accomplished and activities to do.  I find it funny when I desire to just sit with my thoughts, I call this lazy.  How can I give myself permission to slow down and just be.  Do I really need to go on a summer’s sojourn to enjoy quiet moments to seek a rhythm of the day which isn’t about accomplishments but about being?

What do you give yourself permission for during your sojourns?  How can you bring them into your life consistently?


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  • 1. Jeanne  |  October 27, 2010 at 2:45 am

    Love this! I can so relate. We just came back from a family week in New Hampshire and it was magic…days unfolding as you say, time to let the kids take the lead and just meander after then enjoying their creativity, taking a walk whenever I felt like it or just sitting and looking at the trees. Back home now and, yes, doing any of the same things seems lazy. So, thanks for naming the split. I will bring some awareness to it and see how I can bring my ‘vacation’ way of being into my ‘real’ life…so my life feels like vacation. I LOVE the sound of that.

  • 2. Kyra  |  November 9, 2012 at 7:26 pm

    I’m college student have just began trying to incorporate the principles of yoga into my life about a year ago. This summer I went on vacation with my family to a lake cabin. It was incredible… for the first time in over a year I didn’t have homework or projects or deadlines to meet, I didn’t have meetings to go to our people to hang out with – I got to eat when I was hungry, adventure when I felt like it, pause and breathe as needed. I got back to school and a few weeks later fall started up. I haven’t judged myself as lazy when I choose to act as I do in the summer – with freedom and acceptance. That still exists even with a busy schedule for me it started with my outlook – if I could accept the silence was good for me, or benefiting me in my life (which it really does) then that’s not being lazy, that’s being productive just not in a manner that is usually accepted under social constraints since american’s seem to like working harder, not smarter.

    I just found your blog and think its truly wonderful.


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